There was a time in my life when I was not good for my husband.
If he did not do something I asked, I nagged until the task was accomplished. When he did not provide me with the emotional interaction or feedback I desired, I responded with criticism. When he wanted the rightful attention and affection of his wife, I was uninterested.
For many years, I asked God to change my husband. What I needed was for the Holy Spirit to change ME.
Even though my spiritual belief was messed up (and my husband had his own issues for a time) God was faithful. When I finally realized this truth, through God’s amazing grace, my heart and mind were restored and renewed.
And then at the proper time, my husband and I came to a place of mutual repentance and obedience to the covenant the Holy Spirit called us to join with Him nearly twenty-four years ago. We learned what a marriage based in God’s love and direction is truly meant to be, We have trusted in His best for our relationship ever since.
According to Genesis 2, when God created man He saw there was no suitable companion for him. So God made a special partner for man—woman—joining them as one in relationship with each other (in “marriage”).
“So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the Lord God took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the opening. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man.
“At last!” the man exclaimed. “This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh! She will be called ‘woman,’ because she was taken from ‘man.’
This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.
I want to be a blessing and good for my husband (not a hindrance or bring him grief). Part of my job as a wife is to pray for my husband, give him room and encouragement to be obedient to God’s will as a husband and father (without telling him how to do either). When my husband looks at me, I want him to know he is respected and loved, responding with the same.
And to see God’s favor rests upon him because of it.
This informative memoir and Bible study offers one woman’s unique perspective on Christianity, our world’s fascination with the supernatural, and God’s saving grace.